Our South Orangetown Central School District Community was stricken with tragedy and grief when Mr. Paul Doctor, 5th grade teacher at Cottage Lane Elementary School died unexpectedly on Wednesday, January 20, 2016. One would be hard-pressed to find a teacher who was more beloved by his students (past and present), than Mr. Doctor.
When faced with death or tragedy within the school community, communication, organization, and support are critical in helping to inform students, families, and staff and in helping the school community through the healing process. Below, are a few excellent resources/ links from the National Association of School Psychologists (NASP) for parents and teachers to help you better understand children’s understanding of grief at different developmental stages, children’s various reactions to grief, a few ideas on how to tell a child of a death, ways to help children cope, and some tips for children and teens with friends going through the grieving process. There is also some information for parents and teachers in these documents regarding signs that a child may need additional support and assistance in coping with their grief.
In addition, as caregivers, we must be cognizant of our own reactions to grief and remember to care for ourselves as we assist others through difficult times. Even if the caregiver was not directly affected by the traumatic event, secondary stress and trauma are very real, indeed, and measures need to be taken to mitigate the associated feelings and reactions.
Throughout the remainder of the school year, students, staff, parents and the school community will be invited to participate in activities that will help us grieve and celebrate the life of our teacher, colleague and dear friend, Mr. Doctor.
Ways to Address Grief With Children
Tips for Teachers and School Administrators
Care for Caregivers (Avoid Burnout)