The root of all prosocial behavior can be found in the trait of empathy. The good news is that empathy can be learned by, and developed in, children and we recognize the value of this as part of our character education programs at SOCSD. Empathy is sometimes referred to as the “social emotion” and we consider this to be one of the most important character education goals for our students. Recently, at Cottage Lane Elementary School, I had the opportunity to witness the character education assembly on EMPATHY and was impressed that the assembly was a 100% student-driven production. That is to say, the assemblies were written, directed, produced, and performed by students, for the benefit of students.
We believe that it is important to develop empathy in our students since this trait is elemental to all healthy relationships. Together we can teach our children to be empathetic and emotionally intelligent adults. Here are some suggested phrases that we can use to develop empathy, not just within our children, but within ourselves:
- Thanks for telling me about that. I’m here if you want to talk about it.
- I can understand how difficult that must be for you.
- Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help you.
- Please continue to let me know how that’s going for you, I’m so glad you told me.
- I am here as a friend. Is there anything I can do?
During the Winter Break, we often hear the phrase “peace on earth” mentioned in secular and celebratory language. The presence (or conversely, the non existence) of “world peace” can be explained by the collective presence (or conversely, the absence) of empathy. We believe that teaching our students to be empathetic will contribute to each student’s ability to be productive in a social setting and be an essential step towards a peaceful society.
In practicing empathy this holiday season, may each of you promote peace and discover the joy associated with spending time with those who are dear.